Me and my autistic son can relate to this. It’s heart-warming.
Andrew Solomon’s book Far From the Tree: Parents, Children and the Search for Identity is about parents and their special needs children. He writes about how they develop a coping mechanism and fire to care for their exceptional children.
This book is centered around families coping with deafness, dwarfism, Down syndrome, autism, schizophrenia, multiple severe disabilities, with children who are prodigies, who are conceived in rape, who become criminals, who are transgender. While each of these characteristics is potentially isolating, the experience of difference within families is universal. In Solomon’s telling, these stories are everyone’s stories.
All parenting turns on a crucial question: to what extent parents should accept their children for who they are, and to what extent they should help them become their best selves. Drawing on forty thousand pages of interview transcripts with more than three hundred families, Solomon mines the eloquence of ordinary people facing extreme challenges. Whether considering prenatal screening for genetic disorders, cochlear implants for the deaf, or gender reassignment surgery for transgender people, Solomon narrates a universal struggle toward compassion and innumerable triumphs of love.
Many families grow closer through caring for a challenging child; most discover supportive communities of others similarly affected; some are inspired to become advocates and activists, celebrating the very conditions they once feared. Woven into their courageous and affirming stories is Solomon’s journey to accepting his own identity, which culminated in his midlife decision, influenced by this research, to become a parent.
As an autism dad I can relate to this video and his story. There is a special bond that me and the Panzon have that will continue for the remainder of our life.
Truly inspirational and this is another reason to be a bad-ass autism father to your kids.